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CONFIDENCE & SELF-ESTEEM

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CONFIDENCE & SELF-ESTEEM

CONFIDENCE & SELF-ESTEEM

People who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.

First, I want to shake you out of the idea that you need certain things to feel confident. Most people make the mistake of thinking that they need superficial badges of success before they can feel good about themselves, things like money, a big house, the right job or the right car. This simply isn’t true. In fact, needing these things to feel good about your life is the opposite of confidence: INSECURITY. Because if you strip these people of all these things they have earned they have nothing to offer. They feel worthless without them. This is not a position of power. I really believe that confidence is control. What kind of control?

Our internal confidence is determined by how much control we have over closing the gap between where we are now and where we want to be. Self-Confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: People who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful. After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that’s being pitched by someone who was nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic. On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly, who holds his or her head high, who answers questions assuredly, and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.

Self-confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success. The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on. And, whether you’re working on your own self-confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort! So how confident do you seem to others?